Resource Radar: Sex Ed Edition

Finding accessible, accurate, and inclusive information to explore sexual safety, pleasure, and preferences can be challenging.

My intention in this post is to share a few resources that promote understanding, self-acceptance, and raised awareness around sexual pleasure and functioning.

1. Understanding Sex

• Nervous system impacts on desire and arousal:

  • Sexual “brakes and accelerators”; what brings us closer to, or further from, pleasure

    • “The Dual Control Model,” by Emily Nagoski

    • "The Keys to a Happier, Healthier Sex Life,” by Emily Nagoski (Ted Talk)

  • Spontaneous and Responsive Desire

    • "Pleasure is the Measure," by Emily Nagoski

  • Experiencing Unwanted Arousal

    • "The Truth About Unwanted Arousal," Emily Nagoski (Ted Talk)

• Emotional impacts:

  • “Slay Sexual Shame,” by Pleasure Mechanics

  • “How Does Sex Affect Your Emotions,” by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST
    

2. Exploring Pleasure

• Interactive Resources:

  • "Worksheets from Come As You Are," by Emily Nagoski

  • “Here is a Worksheet to Help You Talk to Your Partners About Sex,” by Autostraddle

  • "The 5 Erotic Blueprints: What They Are & How To Find Yours," by Jamie LeClaire

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• Blogs:
  

  • Pillow Talk, a blog by Afrosexology

  • Sex Ed, a blog by Wildflower

• Books:

  • Tell Me What You Want, by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

  • Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski

  • Loving with the Brain in Mind, by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.
    

This is barely scratching the surface of the information out there; pleasure, desire, connection, sexuality, and language is ever evolving.

I’m always open to receiving feedback about this content, and if you have a resource that you’re passionate about, I’d love to hear about it!

Feel free to email me at tdastice@gmail.com

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